Happy Father’s Day

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Dear God,

I thank you for this day. Thank you for gracing us with your one and only Son Jesus. I am grateful for your precious gift. Lord, I thank you for your sons here on Earth and for those who you have called home. Today is not an easy day for many of your children so Lord I have come as I am asking that your hands will rest upon each and everyone of your children. Every hurt, pain and tear, we surrender unto you. Your word reminds us that you are a “ father to the fatherless, a defender of widows” (Psalm 68:5) You are the greatest comforter. You are our source of peace. I pray for anyone reading this that you will find rest in Christ alone. For as many whose father’s are alive but are absent in their lives, I ask their Lord for your love and forgiveness to overflow in their relationship. Lord, I ask that they will reconcile with their Father’s. Let your will be done. For those whose father’s are present, may they cherish every moment with their fathers. For those whose father’s are no longer here with them, may your hands touch their hearts. May they experience your love in a deeper and fresh way daily. Father, I pray and ask that you will raise up a generation of men who will be leaders in their home but also in every areas of their lives; men who aren’t afraid of praying and professing your word. Heavenly Father, I ask that you will strengthen your sons. I ask that you will shoulder their burdens and draw them closer to your presence. May they have intimacy with you all the days of their lives. May they never lose sight of who you are. I pray that you will give each of your sons peace, wisdom and knowledge in every decision that they have to make. Your word remind us that “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” (Proverbs 4:7).  Father, I thank you every one of your sons. May you bless and sustain them each and every day of their life. In Jesus name, Amen.

With love,

Your Child

 Happy Father’s Day to every father around the world. You are loved. You are appreciated. You are special. Have a wonderful day. God loves you 🙂

“But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” ~Joshua 24:15

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Strength Amidst The Trauma

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Mission Statement:

We’re a nonprofit organization that educates children and adolescents in Ghana about Child Sexual Abuse prevention. Our safety lessons educate children from ages 4 to 18. The organization visits schools to educate children on the topic of Child Sexual Abuse and its prevalence at schools, homes, and on the streets. We let children know what touches are deemed inappropriate. At schools, we focus on safety lessons. Students are educated in interactive group settings with handouts and informative videos. The organization also host various “Street Editions” where young traders and hawkers are educated on the prevention of Sexual Abuse.

Establishment: 

CSA was established in 2016 in Accra Ghana. This vision of Combating Child Sexual Abuse was birth by Emma T. Akuffo. The founder states, “there’s an immense inattention to child sexual abuse in Ghana, this topic brings discomfort to many but we must acknowledge this as a problem and educate our young ones”. The organization utilizes young dedicated volunteers from various universities in Ghana to educate Children in schools and streets.

Goal:

The organization visits school and conducts sexual abuse prevention workshops. Each week the organization focuses on one school and educate on average, fifty students about child sexual abuse and how to prevent it. Our trained teaching volunteers present safety lessons to students. We let children know what touches are deemed inappropriate, and how to avoid and deal with leading situations. Students are educated in an interactive group settings with handouts and informative videos. The organization also host various “Street Editions” where young traders and hawkers are educated on the prevention of Sexual Abuse.

For more information, please visit our website and our contacts below

http://combatingcsa.org/

https://emmaadvocates.com/

 

Start Reading!

Education doesn’t end in the classroom. The month of April is almost over. What book are you currently reading? So for me, I am reading “Through The Eyes Of A Lion” by Levi Lusko. He shared his testimony while I attended Hillsong Church. It was a blessing and it led me to purchase his book immediately. I bought his book in November 2016 and I’m now reading it. Why? Well I was in college. Though I read while in college, I didn’t get to read this precious book. I’m almost finished. It’s a sad book but yet contains so many nuggets. The books enlisted are the ones I’ve read for the past three months. I’m getting my book ready for the Month of May. God is doing a new thing. My word for this year is Consistency. I will stay focused and not lose sight of what God is doing in my life and around me. It’s very important for us to read. There’s always something to learn when we expand our horizons. You learn so much through other people’s experiences. You don’t always have to wait to be in the situation to have knowledge on how to approach it. There are people who have been through the trials we have faced. They don’t write to share their experiences just for the sake of it. They write to help us when we are also faced with a similar trial. Many times, we can take reading for granted. We don’t value it. If it’s not a requirement for a college assignment, we don’t consider it to be a priority. As a child, my father would always take us to the library to pick up a book. He always taught me the importance of having a dictionary. When you don’t understand a word, look in the dictionary. When you read, you enhance your vocabulary. Though, I don’t always pick up a dictionary, I google the word to get the meaning. I admit that they have been times when I just overlook the word but for the most part, I carry the words my father taught me as a child. So my suggestion for you today is consider reading a book every month, If you haven’t started, it’s not too late. Look for a book on Amazon or pick up a book at your library. Join the fun and adventure :).

Thank you so much for stopping by my blog. Feel free to leave any book recommendations for me. Jesus loves you. Have a lovely day 🙂

 

Basic 101: Etiquette

Basic 101

For starters, we will start off by defining what etiquette means. According to dictionary.com, etiquette is defined as a “conventional requirement as to social behavior; proprieties of conduct as established in any class or community or for any occasion.” The purpose of etiquette isn’t to put on a show or to prove that anyone is better in any way. I believe that when someone has an understanding of basic etiquette, they won’t feel awkward when they are in a social event or even while having a conversation because they will be familiar with the topic. Etiquette starts at home. There are many things you won’t learn until your disgraced in public.

Places where etiquette can be beneficial.

  1. During an interview
  2. At dinner with your coworkers
  3. Date Night with your partner
  4. Having a conversation with your teacher
  5. Dinner With Your Girls

Social Etiquette Question:

When should you start eating?

  1. As soon as you are served
  2. After everyone is served
  3. When the waitress tells you to start eating.

What should you do with your knife and fork to signal that you have finished eating?

1. Place your utensils next to each other, on the tablecloth, above your plate.

2. Lay the knife and fork across your plate with the handles at four o’clock.

3. Position your utensils on your plate so that the knife and fork form an “X”.

Is it important to be on time for dinner, interviews, or other events? Yes or No

Though this answer is yes, many people have a problem with arriving on time for anything. Its takes 30 seconds to make an impression. Being late to important events makes you unreliable.

Basic Manners

  1. Say Please & Thank you: This may seem like common sense but not many say please or thank you these days.
  2. Learn To Apologize: When you do something to someone, say sorry. If you aren’t aware of what you did and they bring it to your attention, try to make amends with that person.
  3. Ask Questions: If you have a question concerning something, don’t be afraid. Sometimes, the question you want to ask is most likely what someone wants to also ask.
  4. Say Excuse Me: It doesn’t hurt to say excuse me when your walking and someone is standing in the way. Say it in a polite manner.
  5. Respect Yourself: If you can’t respect yourself, no one will respect you either. My mother always says “The way we carry ourselves plays a role on how people will treat us.”
  6. Listen: When someone is talking, take the time to listen. Don’t jump into conclusions. Allow them to finish. If you have an input on what they are saying, find a way to speak to them.
  7. Return Things When Borrowed: This is a very big deal especially when your friends lend you money or anything in general. Don’t take their kindness for granted.
  8. Clean Up After YourselfDon’t expect anyone to clean up after you. If you go to the bathroom, flush the toilet. Clean up the sink after brushing your teeth. Leaving toothpaste inside the sink isn’t cute. Take out the garbage. Wash your dishes. Don’t wait for anyone to do it. Always check your surroundings.
  9. Wash Your Hands: This seems like it’s common sense but not everyone wash their hands. That’s why sometimes you can’t eat from certain people because they aren’t clean. Wash your hands. I can’t stretch it enough 🙂
  10. Close Your Mouth While Eating: Lol sometimes, the food is so good but i’ve learned that no one want to see what’s inside your mouth.
  11. Open The Door For Others: Though this may seem like it’s common sense, not many people do it anymore. Yes, some people may not say thank you, but never let that stop you from opening the door when you can.
  12. Focus when people are talking: Give them your attention. Don’t be on your phone. It’s very rude. Allow them to open up to you. If you can’t give them your undivided attention, don’t that from them.
  13. Stand Up For The Elderly: If you are sitting on the bus or train and you see an elderly person, be kind in giving up your seat.
  14. Don’t Put Your Foot Everywhere: Especially when your on the bus or sitting waiting at the hospital. Keep your foot where it belongs (on the floor).
  15. Smile: 🙂

There are so many etiquettes out there, but these are just a few. I hope these were helpful to you. Have a lovely day 🙂

 

 

 

 

Note To Younger Girls

  1. You are beautiful. Mama may have never told you that but I’m here to remind you that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are unique. No one can ever be you. You may have heard this before but that’s the truth of the matter.
  2. Take time for yourself. Get to know you. No this is not selfish. It’s extremely important for your well-being.
  3. Cultivate a relationship with God. Your faith is not dependent on your mother, father or grandmother’s salvation. Get to know God for yourself. You don’t have to wait till your 30 before you start getting serious about your relationship with God.
  4. You are not going to live in your parent’s house forever. One day, you’ll move out. So while you are living with your parents, make the most out of your time.
  5. Learn to cook. It’s not everyday ramen noodles. When your mom is cooking, try to watch her and ask questions. Learn from her. Cooking is art. Learn from others and add their tips to your cooking. These days, people showcase their cooking on youtube. You can learn from there. Stop getting upset when your asked to do your chores. It will help you one day in life. When you go to college and meet people who don’t clean or even brush their teeth, you’ll thank your mother for raising you.
  6. Learn from others. When you don’t understand something, ask questions.
  7. Friends come and go. At a young age, it’s so tough to understand. You’ll get upset and frustrated but later on you’ll realize it. Surround yourself with postive, likeminded people. You are who you attract. If you like drama, people who love drama, will be attracted to you. Know your friends. It’s not everyone you meet, you automatically give them the spare keys to your house. In the same way, you shouldn’t consider everyone you meet your friends. Know the difference between associates and friends. In order for one to be a good friend to you, you must learn to be one too. There is a season for everything. Understanding that there is a purpose to every encounter is key. Those who are meant to be a part of your life will be there. Don’t try to maintain friendships/relationships with people who make it apparent that they don’t want your friendship.
  8. Know your value. The way you are raised plays a role in how you behave/view things later on in life.
  9. Set goals for yourself but don’t forget to include God in your plans.
  10. Life is a journey. Be open to new adventures in life. Continue to learn from others. Don’t be hard on yourself. Try not to compare yourself with others. No one is perfect. It’s not everything you see in movies, or social media that is true. Most of the things your see are just highlights of one’s life. You don’t know what people are going through behind close doors. Appreciate the people that God has placed in your life. Make the most out of each day you are blessed to see. Live, laugh, love smile while you can. Life is what you make it 🙂

Lessons Learned (Calling/Texting)

....forgive my yearning to know, to share & understand....  I'm not angry.  Sometimes I have to remind myself that your absence is not about me.         I am on my own.    I have to remind myself that loving you right now, means shutting the fuck up...& blessing you on your own path.         Peace, my love..

We have all at some point in our lives text someone and not received a response. To be honest, this can get annoying after a while and makes us not want to text that person again. Even though this can become frustrating, here are some things I have personally learned about texting that can probably help you in understanding why you shouldn’t give up so quickly on those who don’t text you.

  1. Everyone’s form of communication is different. As much as you might want someone to respond to your text, it is also essential for you to know what communication method works best for that person.
  2. Some people prefer calling than texting and vice versa. For some people, texting requires too much effort so calling them is the way to go.
  3. “I’m not a texting or phone person”. I’m sure you have come in contact with someone who has stated this phrase. It is a lie. This person needs to get it together. If that’s the case why does that person have a phone? In the generation that we are living in, we can’t meet up all the time. We all have things to do. Social media can’t be the way for one to communicate at all times. In this case, you have to find what works for both ends.
  4. Some people think they have responded and in reality they haven’t. Before they realize a week or even a month has passed on by. Maybe the person you are trying to reach is not in the country or have traveled. Not everyone informs people when they are traveling so in that case there’s nothing you can do.
  5. When people are going through their own situations, they don’t want anything to do with anyone. So this could mean no picking up phone calls or answering text messages.
  6. People choose who they want to respond to and when they want to return someone’s text or call. Understand that everyone’s mentality is different. Yes, it can intentionally or unintentionally.
  7. Maybe they are busy doing something and by the time they want to respond, the day has passed on by and they may feel like what is the point of responding depending on the question you asked them. To me, it will be polite if they can at least send you a text expressing why they couldn’t respond to you.
  8. If you find that your constantly the one reaching out, express that to the person. If change isn’t made, sometimes, you have to sit back and evaluate the situation. Is it worth fighting for?
  9. If you reach out to them and they don’t respond but then you see them on social media, try not to get upset. Like I mentioned, people choose to respond when they want. You can’t force anyone to get back to you even though it would be the polite thing for them to do.
  10. Sometimes, all you can do is pray for people. Maybe they are going through their own situations and this is the time they don’t have the voice to express their pain, so you have to learn to understand. If you have their address, you can send them a card or leave them a voicemail. They might respond to you later. This is why it’s also key to know the people your dealing with. Know yourself. Know the people you surround yourself with. If you feel like you have tried over and over again and you are drained out, leave it alone and don’t feel bad. If you want to reach out to the person once in while, feel free to do so but don’t have expectations for them to respond when you know their habits.

*Do you find yourself only calling or texting people when your going through something? This may also be a sign for you that maybe that person gets drained out when you only call them when your going through situations. This may be the reason, they are not picking up your phone calls and responding to you during the hours you are asleep. Not everyone is your therapist. Not everyone means well for you. Sometimes, people don’t want to listen to what your going through when they are facing their own battles. When your going through a situation, learn to sit and reflect on your situation before picking up the phone to call someone. It’s so easy for us to call someone to lay our burdens on them but not everyone wants to hear you out. Get yourself a journal. Write your thoughts out. Learn to seek God first when your going through something. Pour your heart out. Lay it at his feet. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t call people. We all go though situation and it’s good to have a shoulder to lean on but we can’t make God our last resort. Sometimes, God can even cause a person not to pick up the phone because he’s trying to teach you to seek him first.

Thank you for stopping by my blog. I hope you can take something away from this post. God bless you. Have a lovely day/week 🙂

Advice To Your Younger Self #2

At the start of this year, I started a project which entailed of me asking people who are much older than me this question “What advice will you give your younger self?” It’s been quite interesting the responses I have received by far. In the month of March, I documented all the responses I received and shared it with you all.  Today, I will be sharing part two (responses with you all from (April – July).

Daphne: 4/16/2017

  1. Trust God
  2. Your beautiful
  3. Value your friendships, family/relationships

 

Kwame: April 19th, 2017

  1. Stay focused
  2. Have more confidence
  3. Think through before making decisions
  4. Don’t compromise

 

Bichelle: April 21st.2017

  1. Follow your instincts
  2. Stick to what you believe
  3. You are beautiful 

 

 Eileen Halsman: 

  • Be selective of the men you chose. (70+ years old)

 

Adaeze: 5/27//2017

  • Don’t be hard on yourself. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.

 

Lindsey: 5/27/2017

  • Get saved 

 

Bamidele (7/22/2017)

-Your dreams will take a longer time to happen but it will happen eventually so you were worried for nothing.

-Dear younger self, next time pick up that call from Jesus earlier. You kept running from all those ladies he sent you in high school. But i am happy I eventually got your attention said Jesus.

-You worry too much about what people think and missed out on a lot because you were afraid you’d offend someone. Next time, let’s start not worrying about what others would say or do. Just be worry what the Lord God thinks.

 

Delali (7/22/2017)

-Save money

-Be consistent

-Listen to my instinct

-If a man says he doesn’t want you, he really means it. Don’t try to change him.

-Mothers are mostly right.

-Follow your passion not what your parents want you to do for them.

 

Mother: (7/24/2017)

  1. Know the Lord earlier
  2. Patience. If you don’t have patience and if someone wants to get to know you, you’ll miss out. Don’t judge before knowing a person. Deep down the person may be the person for you.
  3. To know myself better
  4. Don’t marry someone who is so much older than you. Find someone you can have fun with. When someone is so much older than you, sometimes, there isn’t any chemistry/no relationship between you and the person.

 

Carrie (Waitress) : 7/28/2017

  1. Don’t give up your virginity before marriage. I wish I could have waited.
  2. Don’t take in what people say. Be wise. Don’t be easily deceived. There’s a lot of darkness out there. The heart is deceitful.
  3. Put God first. The best wisdom is from God. Continue to study his word.