For starters, we will start off by defining what etiquette means. According to dictionary.com, etiquette is defined as a “conventional requirement as to social behavior; proprieties of conduct as established in any class or community or for any occasion.” The purpose of etiquette isn’t to put on a show or to prove that anyone is better in any way. I believe that when someone has an understanding of basic etiquette, they won’t feel awkward when they are in a social event or even while having a conversation because they will be familiar with the topic. Etiquette starts at home. There are many things you won’t learn until your disgraced in public.
Places where etiquette can be beneficial.
- During an interview
- At dinner with your coworkers
- Date Night with your partner
- Having a conversation with your teacher
- Dinner With Your Girls
Social Etiquette Question:
When should you start eating?
- As soon as you are served
- After everyone is served
- When the waitress tells you to start eating.
What should you do with your knife and fork to signal that you have finished eating?
1. Place your utensils next to each other, on the tablecloth, above your plate.
2. Lay the knife and fork across your plate with the handles at four o’clock.
3. Position your utensils on your plate so that the knife and fork form an “X”.
Is it important to be on time for dinner, interviews, or other events? Yes or No
Though this answer is yes, many people have a problem with arriving on time for anything. Its takes 30 seconds to make an impression. Being late to important events makes you unreliable.
- Say Please & Thank you: This may seem like common sense but not many say please or thank you these days.
- Learn To Apologize: When you do something to someone, say sorry. If you aren’t aware of what you did and they bring it to your attention, try to make amends with that person.
- Ask Questions: If you have a question concerning something, don’t be afraid. Sometimes, the question you want to ask is most likely what someone wants to also ask.
- Say Excuse Me: It doesn’t hurt to say excuse me when your walking and someone is standing in the way. Say it in a polite manner.
- Respect Yourself: If you can’t respect yourself, no one will respect you either. My mother always says “The way we carry ourselves plays a role on how people will treat us.”
- Listen: When someone is talking, take the time to listen. Don’t jump into conclusions. Allow them to finish. If you have an input on what they are saying, find a way to speak to them.
- Return Things When Borrowed: This is a very big deal especially when your friends lend you money or anything in general. Don’t take their kindness for granted.
- Clean Up After Yourself: Don’t expect anyone to clean up after you. If you go to the bathroom, flush the toilet. Clean up the sink after brushing your teeth. Leaving toothpaste inside the sink isn’t cute. Take out the garbage. Wash your dishes. Don’t wait for anyone to do it. Always check your surroundings.
- Wash Your Hands: This seems like it’s common sense but not everyone wash their hands. That’s why sometimes you can’t eat from certain people because they aren’t clean. Wash your hands. I can’t stretch it enough 🙂
- Close Your Mouth While Eating: Lol sometimes, the food is so good but i’ve learned that no one want to see what’s inside your mouth.
- Open The Door For Others: Though this may seem like it’s common sense, not many people do it anymore. Yes, some people may not say thank you, but never let that stop you from opening the door when you can.
- Focus when people are talking: Give them your attention. Don’t be on your phone. It’s very rude. Allow them to open up to you. If you can’t give them your undivided attention, don’t that from them.
- Stand Up For The Elderly: If you are sitting on the bus or train and you see an elderly person, be kind in giving up your seat.
- Don’t Put Your Foot Everywhere: Especially when your on the bus or sitting waiting at the hospital. Keep your foot where it belongs (on the floor).
- Smile: 🙂
There are so many etiquettes out there, but these are just a few. I hope these were helpful to you. Have a lovely day 🙂
What have you been reading? Before the year started, my goal was to read at least one book every month. I started this challenge last year. I enjoy reading different novels but I love books that are educative. It isn’t easy to read a month every month when you have so much to do but if you put your mind to something, you can accomplish anything. So I’m sure you have seen this book or have heard about it. To be honest, when this book released, I wasn’t hyped. It wasn’t until I attended a church service/workshop with them. They were guest speakers at a church and my friend wanted to attend. Friend: “It’s not everyday your going to see Meagan Good and Devon Franklin”. So we attended the church service and it was a great experience. Afterwards, we got the opportunity to meet them personally. There was where I purchased my book. They signed it and we took pictures with them. They were nice and their presence lightened up the entire room.
I met them 2016 and I’m now reading the book. It’s better now than never at all. At the time, I was in school. Let’s be honest, when your in college, you don’t have so much time on your hands at all. So now that I’m out of college, there aren’t any excuses since I’m still looking for a job. I know I will find one by God’s grace. For now, just trying to be productive in the season that I am in. I started this book yesterday. So far, so good. I’m also reading another book with someone by Rick Warren: A Purpose Driven Life. That has been an interesting read by far. There’s always something to learn from someone’s experience. If you are reading a book this month, please feel free to share.
Here is my book read for the month of January.
If can purchase this book, go right ahead. It was a blessing. I found out about Priscilla Shirer through a friend while in college. She would share her sermons with me and even recommended me one of her books by name of “The Resolution For Women”. To be honest, I started this book last year and I’m close but not almost to finish. I will definitely finish this book this year. You can also check out a movie she starred on called “War Room”. I hope it will be a blessing to you as it was to me.
Here is a link you can watch it on. Until next time, stay blessed & encouraged 🙂
- What have you been thinking about lately?
- What are some of your goals for 2018?
- How have you been physically, mentally, emotionally since the year started?
- Are you growing spiritually? If not, what are you willing to do to draw closer to God?
- What do you find yourself stressing about lately?
- Do you laugh often?
- What brings you joy?
- When it comes to your finances, are you saving or spending more?
- Who are your friends? Are they genuine people? If not, why do you consider them your friends?
- Are you a friend? Do you take the time to reach out to your friends?
- From a scale of 1 to 10, how has your relationship been with your family since the year started?
- If there are three words you hope this year would be, what will it be?
- Since the year started, do you find yourself going out to eat more outside or have you been cooking more at home?
- Would you say that you have been using your time wisely?
- When was the time you read a book? Are you planning on reading any books on your personal time?
- Who do you need to still forgive?
- Where are some of places you’ll would like to travel to in 2018?
- What projects have you been working on?
- Have you been focused or easily distracted since the year started?
- What are you willing to do to accomplish your goals?
Until next time, live, love and be you always 🙂
We have all at some point in our lives text someone and not received a response. To be honest, this can get annoying after a while and makes us not want to text that person again. Even though this can become frustrating, here are some things I have personally learned about texting that can probably help you in understanding why you shouldn’t give up so quickly on those who don’t text you.
- Everyone’s form of communication is different. As much as you might want someone to respond to your text, it is also essential for you to know what communication method works best for that person.
- Some people prefer calling than texting and vice versa. For some people, texting requires too much effort so calling them is the way to go.
- “I’m not a texting or phone person”. I’m sure you have come in contact with someone who has stated this phrase. It is a lie. This person needs to get it together. If that’s the case why does that person have a phone? In the generation that we are living in, we can’t meet up all the time. We all have things to do. Social media can’t be the way for one to communicate at all times. In this case, you have to find what works for both ends.
- Some people think they have responded and in reality they haven’t. Before they realize a week or even a month has passed on by. Maybe the person you are trying to reach is not in the country or have traveled. Not everyone informs people when they are traveling so in that case there’s nothing you can do.
- When people are going through their own situations, they don’t want anything to do with anyone. So this could mean no picking up phone calls or answering text messages.
- People choose who they want to respond to and when they want to return someone’s text or call. Understand that everyone’s mentality is different. Yes, it can intentionally or unintentionally.
- Maybe they are busy doing something and by the time they want to respond, the day has passed on by and they may feel like what is the point of responding depending on the question you asked them. To me, it will be polite if they can at least send you a text expressing why they couldn’t respond to you.
- If you find that your constantly the one reaching out, express that to the person. If change isn’t made, sometimes, you have to sit back and evaluate the situation. Is it worth fighting for?
- If you reach out to them and they don’t respond but then you see them on social media, try not to get upset. Like I mentioned, people choose to respond when they want. You can’t force anyone to get back to you even though it would be the polite thing for them to do.
- Sometimes, all you can do is pray for people. Maybe they are going through their own situations and this is the time they don’t have the voice to express their pain, so you have to learn to understand. If you have their address, you can send them a card or leave them a voicemail. They might respond to you later. This is why it’s also key to know the people your dealing with. Know yourself. Know the people you surround yourself with. If you feel like you have tried over and over again and you are drained out, leave it alone and don’t feel bad. If you want to reach out to the person once in while, feel free to do so but don’t have expectations for them to respond when you know their habits.
*Do you find yourself only calling or texting people when your going through something? This may also be a sign for you that maybe that person gets drained out when you only call them when your going through situations. This may be the reason, they are not picking up your phone calls and responding to you during the hours you are asleep. Not everyone is your therapist. Not everyone means well for you. Sometimes, people don’t want to listen to what your going through when they are facing their own battles. When your going through a situation, learn to sit and reflect on your situation before picking up the phone to call someone. It’s so easy for us to call someone to lay our burdens on them but not everyone wants to hear you out. Get yourself a journal. Write your thoughts out. Learn to seek God first when your going through something. Pour your heart out. Lay it at his feet. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t call people. We all go though situation and it’s good to have a shoulder to lean on but we can’t make God our last resort. Sometimes, God can even cause a person not to pick up the phone because he’s trying to teach you to seek him first.
Thank you for stopping by my blog. I hope you can take something away from this post. God bless you. Have a lovely day/week 🙂