Allow the sun to kiss your skin. Sweep your feet. Charle, feel the breeze of Mama Africa.
The way the sun will welcome you every morning as early as 5:45am, you will rise to open your window blinds. Akwaaba. Day 2 in Ghana was so refreshing. Woke up and ate some bread and eggs with some Milo. Let’s talk about the eggs. When I tell you the eggs in Ghana is so good, you will even wonder what they are feeding the eggs in America. It is delicious. I must say that when it came to eating well, charle I dey chop paa. Hausa Koko & Bofrot for breakfast. Fried yams + Shito + fried fish for lunch. Rice and tolobeefe for dinner. So many variety of foods to eat in Ghana.
Week 1 in Ghana was very adventurous. Went around the neighborhood and visited my cousin in Osu. First stop was Vodafone then Papaye which was right around the same street. When I was a little girl, I remember my aunt taking me to this spot. This time around I went with my cousin. This Papaye restaurant is located in Osu, Accra.
After spending approximately an hour in Papaye, we headed out to the streets of Osu. We walked and came across many art crafts. And of course not to my surprise, I was asked if I wanted to purchase anything. There were so many beautiful artwork and African clothing. Here are a few pictures I took while walking on the streets of Osu. Osu in general is a busy place.
After walking and setting our eyes on all this beautiful handmade work, my cousin and I walked to catch the Tro Tro to Ako Adjei to surprise my cousin. My first time on the Trotro was very interesting. Everyone is sitting and minding their business while the Trotro “mate” is asking for your fare. At last, we reached our junction, walked a while on the rich soil grounds of Accra. My cousin and I took pictures and planned on how I was going to surprise my cousin, Uncle and aunt.
At last we reached my Uncle’s house. I hid on the floor as my cousin entered. After I just ran inside and they started screaming. They were so surprised because no one told them that I had come to Ghana. My cousin at the time was in the bathroom but because they were screaming, I think she was aware. I hid awaiting for her to leave the bathroom, but once she walked out she mentioned my name. She was really happy to see me. We spent and hour and some change at my Uncle’s house. Afterwards, my cousins and I took pictures together. So many memories we created within a few minutes. Next up, we headed to my cousin’s seamstress. We spent a few minutes there while my cousin tried an outfit she had sewn.
Afterwards, my cousins and I walked to the junction to pick up a TroTro to LA Maami. As we waited for the TroTro, the aroma of Kelewele (local fried plantains) engulfed my nostrils. After waiting approximately 10 minutes, the TroTro arrived and my cousin parted ways with us. My other cousin and I arrived home safely.
Accra, Labadi (Streets)
Something that I also realized while in Ghana was that a lot of stores were Christ based. Like Sweet Jesus, His Grace, God Will Provide Supermarket, God First Carwash, and etc. The names on the Trotro were even more funnier.
On my way to get my hair braided, I saw a young man selling coconut. We stopped by to get some coconut. It tasted so good and was refreshing. I mean look at this goodness.
On our way back home, I saw little children playing outside.
Mama buying snacks for their children before school.
I enjoyed taking pictures of the streets of Ghana. On our way back, we stopped by TT Special to purchase fried rice and chicken. (Trade Fair).
Little boys walking back from school. Unfortunately some children don’t attend school because their parents can’t pay for their school fees. There were many days, I saw little children selling food outside.
Little girls walking back from school exchanging in their native language (Ga).
Brotherhood & Sisterhood
Tema Community Place
Palm Trees in Tema
Homes In Ghana (Regimanuel Estate): Visiting a family friend.
During our visitation, I was served Waakye, stew and Fish/boiled eggs. Charle Ghanaian food is good. Finger licking food paa.
On our way back to Labadi, I saw a woman selling donuts. It amazed me how I was able to capture these pictures while sitting in the car (windows rolled up).
Preparation To Make Kelewele With My Cousin. Week 1 Festives.
Road Trip To Akosombo: Excursion With Cousins
Kpong is a town in the Lower Manya Krobo District of the Eastern Region of Ghana and particularly noted for the Kpong Dam.
Welcome To Akosombo. Let the fun begin. Below are some of the pictures I took from the excursion.
Excursion was extremely fun. Enjoyed every moment and capturing pictures.
Right after church duties. Cousin preparing pepper.
Fried Yams + Shito + Shrimps.
Kenkey + Fish + Pepper + Guizzard + Shrimps. Please I beg both meals aren’t mine.
End of Week 1 in Ghana 🙂
Week 2 Chronicles
Accra, Labadi: On my way back from the seamstress place.
Roads of Tema. This was absolutely beautiful to me. I couldn’t help but to capture the roadside and the trees.
You are beautiful. Mama may have never told you that but I’m here to remind you that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are unique. No one can ever be you. You may have heard this before but that’s the truth of the matter.
Take time for yourself. Get to know you. No this is not selfish. It’s extremely important for your well-being.
Cultivate a relationship with God. Your faith is not dependent on your mother, father or grandmother’s salvation. Get to know God for yourself. You don’t have to wait till your 30 before you start getting serious about your relationship with God.
You are not going to live in your parent’s house forever. One day, you’ll move out. So while you are living with your parents, make the most out of your time.
Learn to cook. It’s not everyday ramen noodles. When your mom is cooking, try to watch her and ask questions. Learn from her. Cooking is art. Learn from others and add their tips to your cooking. These days, people showcase their cooking on youtube. You can learn from there. Stop getting upset when your asked to do your chores. It will help you one day in life. When you go to college and meet people who don’t clean or even brush their teeth, you’ll thank your mother for raising you.
Learn from others. When you don’t understand something, ask questions.
Friends come and go. At a young age, it’s so tough to understand. You’ll get upset and frustrated but later on you’ll realize it. Surround yourself with postive, likeminded people. You are who you attract. If you like drama, people who love drama, will be attracted to you. Know your friends. It’s not everyone you meet, you automatically give them the spare keys to your house. In the same way, you shouldn’t consider everyone you meet your friends. Know the difference between associates and friends. In order for one to be a good friend to you, you must learn to be one too. There is a season for everything. Understanding that there is a purpose to every encounter is key. Those who are meant to be a part of your life will be there. Don’t try to maintain friendships/relationships with people who make it apparent that they don’t want your friendship.
Know your value. The way you are raised plays a role in how you behave/view things later on in life.
Set goals for yourself but don’t forget to include God in your plans.
Life is a journey. Be open to new adventures in life. Continue to learn from others. Don’t be hard on yourself. Try not to compare yourself with others. No one is perfect. It’s not everything you see in movies, or social media that is true. Most of the things your see are just highlights of one’s life. You don’t know what people are going through behind close doors. Appreciate the people that God has placed in your life. Make the most out of each day you are blessed to see. Live, laugh, love smile while you can. Life is what you make it 🙂
We have all at some point in our lives text someone and not received a response. To be honest, this can get annoying after a while and makes us not want to text that person again. Even though this can become frustrating, here are some things I have personally learned about texting that can probably help you in understanding why you shouldn’t give up so quickly on those who don’t text you.
Everyone’s form of communication is different. As much as you might want someone to respond to your text, it is also essential for you to know what communication method works best for that person.
Some people prefer calling than texting and vice versa. For some people, texting requires too much effort so calling them is the way to go.
“I’m not a texting or phone person”. I’m sure you have come in contact with someone who has stated this phrase. It is a lie. This person needs to get it together. If that’s the case why does that person have a phone? In the generation that we are living in, we can’t meet up all the time. We all have things to do. Social media can’t be the way for one to communicate at all times. In this case, you have to find what works for both ends.
Some people think they have responded and in reality they haven’t. Before they realize a week or even a month has passed on by. Maybe the person you are trying to reach is not in the country or have traveled. Not everyone informs people when they are traveling so in that case there’s nothing you can do.
When people are going through their own situations, they don’t want anything to do with anyone. So this could mean no picking up phone calls or answering text messages.
People choose who they want to respond to and when they want to return someone’s text or call. Understand that everyone’s mentality is different. Yes, it can intentionally or unintentionally.
Maybe they are busy doing something and by the time they want to respond, the day has passed on by and they may feel like what is the point of responding depending on the question you asked them. To me, it will be polite if they can at least send you a text expressing why they couldn’t respond to you.
If you find that your constantly the one reaching out, express that to the person. If change isn’t made, sometimes, you have to sit back and evaluate the situation. Is it worth fighting for?
If you reach out to them and they don’t respond but then you see them on social media, try not to get upset. Like I mentioned, people choose to respond when they want. You can’t force anyone to get back to you even though it would be the polite thing for them to do.
Sometimes, all you can do is pray for people. Maybe they are going through their own situations and this is the time they don’t have the voice to express their pain, so you have to learn to understand. If you have their address, you can send them a card or leave them a voicemail. They might respond to you later. This is why it’s also key to know the people your dealing with. Know yourself. Know the people you surround yourself with. If you feel like you have tried over and over again and you are drained out, leave it alone and don’t feel bad. If you want to reach out to the person once in while, feel free to do so but don’t have expectations for them to respond when you know their habits.
*Do you find yourself only calling or texting people when your going through something? This may also be a sign for you that maybe that person gets drained out when you only call them when your going through situations. This may be the reason, they are not picking up your phone calls and responding to you during the hours you are asleep. Not everyone is your therapist. Not everyone means well for you. Sometimes, people don’t want to listen to what your going through when they are facing their own battles. When your going through a situation, learn to sit and reflect on your situation before picking up the phone to call someone. It’s so easy for us to call someone to lay our burdens on them but not everyone wants to hear you out. Get yourself a journal. Write your thoughts out. Learn to seek God first when your going through something. Pour your heart out. Lay it at his feet. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t call people. We all go though situation and it’s good to have a shoulder to lean on but we can’t make God our last resort. Sometimes, God can even cause a person not to pick up the phone because he’s trying to teach you to seek him first.
Thank you for stopping by my blog. I hope you can take something away from this post. God bless you. Have a lovely day/week 🙂
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Before we can even begin talking about someone being a friend to us, it is vital that we ask ourselves this question “Am I a friend? Sometimes, it is so easy for us to want others to be good friends to us but the truth of the matter is that sometimes we are not good friends to them. It is important that we evaluate ourselves and those we surround ourselves with. We are reminded in 1 Corinthians 15:33 that, Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” You can’t expect to grow when you are constantly hanging around people who aren’t nurturing or willing to see you grow. You might have been friends with certain people for a long period of time but as time passed, you realized that your relationship with that person started to drift apart. As much as you have talked to that person about the distant changes, you still see no changes in your relationship. To be honest, at this point you need to understand that the season that person was in your life is over. Yes, there are instances that people who drift apart can reconnect later on down the line but it is very important to let that person go. It is very important for you to be aware of the people you are hanging around with because they can aid or hinder in your growth as an individual. Many times, we start to develop some of the bad habits and characteristic traits our friends have without knowing it. Until someone stops us in our tracks, we will continue to cultivate these habits. Understand that it is okay to re-evaluate your circle. As you continue to grow, you’ll grow apart from certain people naturally. This does not mean that they weren’t good friends but you’ll come to understand that everyone serves a purpose in your life. Some people are in your life for a season and others for a lifetime. The people you surround yourself with can be a reflection of who you are to a certain degree.
Worldly Friendships: Focused On Self (If you do this for me, then I will do the same for you. It’s more of a competition than willingness to see each other grow.
Categories/Classifications In Friendships
According to author S. L. Young, there are individuals within our social circles, who aren’t necessary our friends but are as follows:
Acquaintance or Associate: there is familiarity with someone, but there isn’t a personal relationship.
Appendage: friendly because there’s a possibility that an individual’s success will help them.
Conditional: a requirement placed on a relationship that’s dependent on a certain need being met.
Counterfeit: gives the impression of being a friend, but isn’t someone who can be trusted.
Evaluative: determines the significance of a relationship based on the last thing(s) provided or done.
Fair-Weather: disappears during a time of need, but will return once a bad time or situation passes;
Leech: drains an individual of their energy, essence, or desire to move forward;
Occasional: friendly during certain times, but suddenly stops being friendly without any reason or notice. At a later time, the person will be friendly (again) on their terms.
Negative: considers themselves to be a friend, but is always pessimistic about things related to the friendship or the things that their friend does.
Noncommittal: goes back-and-forth on their belief(s), support, assistance, etc.
Situational: an individual suddenly becomes friendly once a certain event occurs that there might be a personal benefit.
Spiteful: jealous of someone’s efforts to achieve or actual success;
Toxic: gives an impression of providing support, but actively works to undermine their efforts.
After reading this, do you identify yourself with some of these characteristic traits? If so, what are some ways you are willing to change?
Are you the type of friend you are looking for in a friend?
What are some ways you can grow physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually?
What category would you place your friendships? (Godly or Worldly)
Are you afraid to talk to your friends about God? If so, why not?
Do your friendships glorify God?
Are your friendships comprised of gossiping, negativity and etc?
Before reading this post, did you know the difference between worldly/Godly friendships?
Lessons Learned In My Personal Walk (Friendships)
Your friends from high school aren’t necessary going to be your buddies forever.
You will drift apart from certain friends. It hurts but later on, you’ll understand that the dynamic of your friendships have changed. This doesn’t mean that they are bad people but understanding that their season in your life is over.
Learn to prioritize. If people don’t prioritize you, you don’t have to do the same. So pretty much if you are always the one reaching out and trying to maintain a friendship and the other person isn’t making effort, learn to take a seat. Reach out to them but don’t continue to stretch yourself out to the point where you get worn out. Do your friends only call you when they need something? Express how you feel about your friendship. If you see the same patterns, it is a sign that it’s time to let go.
Learn to pray/reach out to your friends. Just because you text someone and they say that “they are fine” doesn’t always mean they are. Do your best to check up on them even though they may not do it as often as you do. If you can, call them or meet up if you can.
Not everyone has the same heart as you. What you are willing to do for others may not necessary mean they are willing to do the same for you.
Learn to communicate how you feel to your friends and those you love. Express your thoughts in regards to a situation. If you feel that what your friend say or did to you was hurtful, let them know. Don’t walk around like it’s cool because you want to squash the situation.
Confrontation is good. It isn’t as bad as many people think of it. It’s all about how you say things and approach it. It’s also important to know the person you are dealing with. I will definitely say from experience that when you are going to meet a person that you have a problem with or haven’t seen in a while, pray about it. “Lord I come before you as I am. I lift Moriah into your hands. I thank you for this meeting we will have. I pray that your presence will be at our meet-up. Help me to speak in love. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen
Your friends (friends) aren’t necessarily your friends.
Understand that some people are seasonal types of friends. They played a purpose in your life and that’s what matters. Perspective is key. The longer you prolong someone’s season in your life, the more you miss the purpose the were in your life. Some friends drift apart naturally. Other times, you have be the person to separate from them.
Know your friends. Understand that just because you are willing to call someone or check up on your friends every week doesn’t mean they are willing to do the same. This doesn’t mean that they aren’t your friends. You just have to understand that life happens. We all have responsibilities and as much as it will be great for your friends to check up on your as least once or twice or month, let’s be honest that we have friends who reach out once every 3 months.
Listen to what people are saying but also listen to what they are not saying. One of the greatest advice that someone gave me. People will talk but their action will speak louder than their words.
Be careful who you share your information with. Do you find yourself always sharing your information with your friends but they never share anything with you? Like the only information you know about them is their name, favorite color and their nationality?
Learn to spend time with yourself. It’s okay to spend time in your own company. It’s not every day be around people. Even though this was not a problem for me, I find that quite a lot of people struggle with spending time alone.
Understand that you can’t have friends exclusively for you. It’s interesting because someone I know mentioned that sometimes it hard for her because she doesn’t have friends that are exclusively her friends. Either the person she wants to be friends with is already friends with her friends. If that’s the case, go on and get to know people. Join organizations. Pray and allow God to bring people your way.
As life goes, friendships will require more work. Those who are meant to be your friends will be, no matter how challenging life gets. Just like any relationship, it takes work. Your friendships should be natural. You don’t force it. From experience, I always try to maintain friendships. I’ve always had this type of mentality that no matter what season we are in, summer or winter, we are in it forever. So if that means I’m going to forgive you to maintain this friendship, then fine. Overtime, I’ve learned that you can’t continue to maintain friendships with people who aren’t willing to do the same. Friendship is a two way street, not a one way path. 🙂
There are levels to friendship. Man, I just learned this concept this year. My friend will say this in our conversations but I just didn’t get it. For me, if your my friend, (your my friend). I don’t place you in no category. I didn’t understand it until my male friend mentioned the same thing as my female friend. My sister will say not everyone has keys to her hotel. Some people belong in the lobby, the parking lot and etc. This concept will really help you to understand that not everyone has the key to your heart. So my male friend described it as follows. (Level 1 Friendships: People you meet and have a conversation with (nothing deep). Level 2 Friendships: These people know things about you. They have met your family. If you didn’t have a place to live and needed a place to stay for like 3 months, you’ll be fine with it. Level 3 Friendship: These type of friendships are brotherly/sisterly love. You have a good relationship with these people. They are there for you. If you didn’t have a place to live and wanted to stay with them for a year, it is completely fine with them.
Not everyone you encounter is meant to be a part of your life. Some encounters must stop at hello.
Never stop being who you are because how people have treated you in the past.
Make room in your heart for the people God will bring in your life. Not everyone that comes in your life is there to hurt you but everyone serves a purpose in your life.
Celebrate. Encourage. Reach Out. Pray for your friend’s at all times. Live, love, laugh and cherish every moment 🙂
Thank you for stopping by my blog. I do hope that you can take away one or two things from this post. Have a lovely day 🙂