Advice To Your Younger Self #2

At the start of this year, I started a project which entailed of me asking people who are much older than me this question “What advice will you give your younger self?” It’s been quite interesting the responses I have received by far. In the month of March, I documented all the responses I received and shared it with you all.  Today, I will be sharing part two (responses with you all from (April – July).

Daphne: 4/16/2017

  1. Trust God
  2. Your beautiful
  3. Value your friendships, family/relationships

 

Kwame: April 19th, 2017

  1. Stay focused
  2. Have more confidence
  3. Think through before making decisions
  4. Don’t compromise

 

Bichelle: April 21st.2017

  1. Follow your instincts
  2. Stick to what you believe
  3. You are beautiful 

 

 Eileen Halsman: 

  • Be selective of the men you chose. (70+ years old)

 

Adaeze: 5/27//2017

  • Don’t be hard on yourself. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.

 

Lindsey: 5/27/2017

  • Get saved 

 

Bamidele (7/22/2017)

-Your dreams will take a longer time to happen but it will happen eventually so you were worried for nothing.

-Dear younger self, next time pick up that call from Jesus earlier. You kept running from all those ladies he sent you in high school. But i am happy I eventually got your attention said Jesus.

-You worry too much about what people think and missed out on a lot because you were afraid you’d offend someone. Next time, let’s start not worrying about what others would say or do. Just be worry what the Lord God thinks.

 

Delali (7/22/2017)

-Save money

-Be consistent

-Listen to my instinct

-If a man says he doesn’t want you, he really means it. Don’t try to change him.

-Mothers are mostly right.

-Follow your passion not what your parents want you to do for them.

 

Mother: (7/24/2017)

  1. Know the Lord earlier
  2. Patience. If you don’t have patience and if someone wants to get to know you, you’ll miss out. Don’t judge before knowing a person. Deep down the person may be the person for you.
  3. To know myself better
  4. Don’t marry someone who is so much older than you. Find someone you can have fun with. When someone is so much older than you, sometimes, there isn’t any chemistry/no relationship between you and the person.

 

Carrie (Waitress) : 7/28/2017

  1. Don’t give up your virginity before marriage. I wish I could have waited.
  2. Don’t take in what people say. Be wise. Don’t be easily deceived. There’s a lot of darkness out there. The heart is deceitful.
  3. Put God first. The best wisdom is from God. Continue to study his word.

 

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25 Things To Know After High School

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  1. This is just the beginning of start of something new. Greater things lie ahead of you.
  2. You are still growing. You don’t fully know yourself once you leave high school. Learn to spend time with yourself. Write in a journal. Document the things you like/dislike.
  3. The people you used to hang around or called your friends may or will drift apart. You have to understand that sometimes separation is good for your soul. Your friends from high school will attend different universities and they too will make new friends. Sometimes, when people meet new people, they gravitate towards them more. Friendship is a two way street. If you realize that your the one that constantly making effort to maintain the friendship, you have to reevaluate the friends in your life. Understand that certain people are seasonal friends. There were only meant t to be apart of the journey for a while. Either ways, understand that there is a purpose to every encounter. Yes, you may cry or feel upset because of the separation but see it for good. You will meet new people along the journey. Sometimes, because of the pain of past friendships, you will start to guard your heart because you don’t want to get hurt. You must also understand and get to a point in your life knowing that everyone is not out to hurt you. Some people mean well for you. Pray and ask God to direct your pathway; to direct you towards people who want to grow. God has a plan far greater than your understanding. Take things one day at a time, daily seeking HIM. *This is something I struggled to understand even when I was in college. I value friendship so when I realized that it wasn’t being reciprocated it was painful. I had friends from high school who will never reach out to me unless it was convenient for them. 7 months will pass and you won’t hear not even a “Hey. How are you?”. If it wasn’t me reaching out to them, then forget it. If your friends don’t prioritize you, don’t prioritize them either. Make time to make time for those who make time for you.
  4. Not everyone will attend college. I’m sure you have heard people say “College is not for me”. Some people will start a family right after high school. Others will go into the military, cosmetology school, get a job and etc.
  5. Your perspective on life may change. You will go through certain experiences that will make you stronger. Life isn’t easy but you will learn and grow through the trials of life. Your trials will turn into testimonies.
  6. Learn to save. At a young age, you think the money your making is nothing so you spend it recklessly on things you don’t need. I can’t say this was a struggle for me because I’m very frugal. Honey, I’m not cheap but I think before I spend. Money doesn’t come easy. It doesn’t fall off a tree.
  7. Learn to clean/cook. At least learn to boil eggs and make rice. Learning how to make the basics can help you along the journey. “You are beautiful; but learn to work, for you cannot eat your beauty.” -Congolese Proverb
  8. Procrastination will not get you anywhere. It will only set you back. Learn to create deadlines for yourself. If you want to start a Youtube channel or even write a book, set a date for yourself when you want to finish your manuscript/release your first video.
  9. Make yourself a priority. Respect + Take care of yourself. Demand nothing less than respect for yourself. Be comfortable with spending time with yourself. It’s not everyday spending time with people.
  10. Learn to love yourself, flaws and all. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
  11. Attitude is everything. Check yourself. Having a bad attitude will not get you far. It seems cute in high school but it will not take you anywhere.
  12. Keep A To Do List & Stick With It. It’s one thing to write a list and it’s another thing to accomplish it.
  13. Try To Read A Book Every Month.
  14. Spend Less Time On Social Media. Stop focusing on what you see on people’s timeline. Stop comparing yourself. It’s not everything you see, is true. Embrace your journey. Where you are, is for a purpose.
  15. Set Goals For Yourself.
  16. Get to know people who are older than you. They have lived life and there’s always something to learn from them.
  17. Travel. Discover new hobbies. Expand your horizon. Try new foods.
  18. Enjoy your sleep while you can.
  19. Live for today. Time is all we have. If you want to do something, go for it.
  20. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes but learn from them.
  21. Your in charge of your time. No more mama waking you up to get ready for school or get your act together. You need to get it together.
  22. Meet new people. Learn about different cultures. You don’t have to be around the same circle of friends. Don’t put a limit to the people your going to meet.
  23. Not everyone you meet is your friend. Get to know people for yourself. Your friend’s (friend) isn’t necessary your friend.
  24. Be fearless. Take risk. Don’t let fear paralyze you. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Progress cannot be made in a comfort zone (sister).
  25. Live stress free. Laugh often. Love always.

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10 Things To Know While In High School

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Hey :). I hope your’e all doing well. I don’t know if any of you are still in high school but I’m sure you know someone who is still in high school that can benefit from this blog post. Tell your friends and their friends. Alright, let’s get straight to the point.

  1. Get to know yourself. The journey doesn’t stop once you leave high school but it’s very important that you take time to know yourself.
  2. Surround yourself with like minded people. Understand that not everyone is your friend. You will realize that you were only friends with these people because you guys had similarities and either had classes together. Birds of the same feather flock together so be careful of the crowd you follow.
  3. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Things happen for a reason, but learn from your mistakes.
  4. Don’t compare yourself with those around you whether they are your friends or classmates. Everyone is raised differently.  Just because someone is wearing a name brand accessory doesn’t mean you have to do the same. I never had Nike’s. My parent’s couldn’t afford to buy me name brand goods. I was grateful that I had something to wear. Learn to be content with what you have.
  5. Apply to the colleges of your choice. It’s okay if you have to attend a community college before a 4 year college. Honey child, it saves you some money. Just because your classmates or friends are attending a four college doesn’t mean anything. Do what is best for you.  Let’s be honest. If you want to travel out of state for college, please take the time to really think about the expenses and loans you will be taking. Will it all be worth it at the end? Are you trying to go out of state because your tired of living with your parents and want your freedom? Please do take the time to think about the decision your’e making. Apply to a lot of scholarships. Whether you win some of none, you tried and that’s what matters.
  6. Have a personal relationship with God. It’s not all about going to church and sitting in the pews. I’m not saying don’t go to church. Go but don’t let that be a substitution of spending time with God. Don’t go because mama or grandma is forcing you to go. You may not realize it in high school but you will soon realize that it’s important to have a relationship with God. Take time to pray every day. Attend Bible Study. You are never too young to spend time with the Lord.
  7. If you can find a job while going to school, do so. Save up your money. Don’t spend it anyhow. Be wise about the way you spend your money.
  8. Focus in your classes. Appreciate your teachers. Some of the lessons they teach in class can help you once you leave high school. Take high school seriously. Learn to get to school on time. Not being punctual in life can rob you from certain opportunities.
  9. Get involved in extracurricular activities. Volunteer. Write your resume. Ask your teacher’s for advice in regards to college or etc.
  10. Have fun in high school. It goes faster than you think it will.Don’t isolate yourself. Make friends but understand that everyone you come across paths with in this life is for a purpose far beyond your understanding. Make the most out of your high school years. Take pictures. Encourage your friends/classmates. Create memories. Live. Love. Laugh. Be you always. 🙂

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A Day To Remember

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Where do I even start? I mean where do I really begin to share this part of my journey with you all. So yesterday, I graduated from college. All I can say is Glory Be To God. It been a long journey being in college but despite the obstacles and storms, I made it. Class of 2017, we made it. Yesterday begun with me waking up at 5:00am. I wanted to have time to get ready for my special day. Woke up only to realize that it was pouring outside. It seems to me that it rains on special occasions. I don’t know but that’s something I have realized. Despite the rain, I got ready for graduation. I love to start off my day by praying and committing everything into God’s hands. After my time with the Lord, I made sure that I picked up my pronunciation card, my cap and gown, camera and etc.

Walked outside only to realize that it was raining harder than before. I placed my cap and gown in a bag to prevent it from being wrinkled. My family was ready so that was a great start. Prayed and headed out to graduation. For some reason, I started tearing in the car. I couldn’t believe that today was seriously my graduation day. The thought of missing my friends, the people who have made an impact on my life, the organizations on campus, and the people I met along the journey. Have you ever cried but no one realizes that you were crying? For the most part, that’s what usually happens but for some reason, my sister noticed and she handed me a tissue. It was getting real for me. It took as approximately 25-30 minutes to react the designated location that my graduation was going to take place. There was so much traffic and it was raining even more. Many of the graduates had to get out in the middle of traffic to cross the street because we had to be at the place at 7:30am because graduation was going to start at 9:00am.

When we arrived, the graduates had a location to stand. The doors were suppose to open at 7:30am but they were delaying. Once, it opened we had to go through metal detectors. Water bottles weren’t allowed along with other items. It was a long process but eventually we got in. I really liked how every graduate had a line to stand at depending on their majors. It made it easier for everything to flow. The only thing I didn’t like so much was that we waited on line until 9:00 before we walked into the auditorium. I still enjoyed every moment taking pictures with my classmates and exchanging words.

Upon our entrance to the commencement, we were escorted to our seats. It was such a beautiful feeling seeing how the auditorium was packed. The lights, the smiles on people’s face was a sight to see. We sat down and announcements were made. We had to stand up to sing the national anthem and then we sat down. It was really amazing to see that 98% of my graduating class designed their caps. My heart was filled with Joy. The speeches were decent. No extremely long speeches. It was straight to the point.

First, the college of arts was introduced. There were so many graduated from this department. It was remarkable. Then came the college of education and human services which was the department I belong to along with my classmates. #TeamPublicHealth. Ayeee. I’m still here thinking about how amazing yesterday’s commencement was astounding. A day I will always remember. The joy and radiance of seeing my classmates alongside with friends go on stage to be recognized for the accomplishments. I was afraid that my last name was going to be butchered but it wasn’t at all. I was all smiles when I got on stage. I waved at the camera and proceeded to take my seat after. It was interesting some of the things that people did as they walked across the stage. It was too funny. Overall, yesterday was beyond a blessing. I was grateful that my friends, family, loved ones and even a bus driver from college who came to support me on this day. This day was a testimony my mouth cannot contain. All glory be to God. I’m thankful for everyone God allowed me to cross paths in this journey of life. This is just the beginning of what is yet to come. God is good. Faithful Is Here. No matter where you may be in your life, never give up. Seek God in all your Earthly doings. With him, all things are possible.

Verses That Helped Me Along The Journey.

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you. -Psalm 32:8

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. -Jeremiah 29:11

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. -Jeremiah 29:11

Those who look to him are radiant;
their faces are never covered with shame. -Psalm 34:5

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
 in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight. -Proverbs 3:5-6

God has been Good. In all things, give thanks unto him. Celebrate your shortcomings. Don’t compare yourself with others. God has a purpose for where you are right now. Embrace the season you are in and the people he has placed in your life. There is a purpose to every encounter. Cheers to what the future holds. Greater is ahead of you. Until next time, stay blessed & encouraged. 🙂

 

 

 

 

Photographers + Poets

Today is for the women and men who share their heart works. Sometimes, trying to find photographers and writers in general on Instagram can be difficult. It’s been on my heart to share a few of them with you. So below is the list. Please check them out.

Photographers:

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  1. Kwame Freddy
  2. Joshua Kissi
  3. SophieVisually
  4. Raat_Fashion
  5. kymberlibrenzell
  6. Asiyami_Gold
  7. zay.ira
  8. Theforgetterseye
  9. Mrcheyl
  10. Oye_diran
  11. maxwelljennings
  12. mrigwe
  13. Everydaypeoplestories
  14. dapperlou
  15. ondoa
  16. Nyarko_photography
  17. stephenobisanya
  18. Tamon_
  19. Temi.Coker
  20. chimodu
  21. Kofmotivation
  22. _lloydfoster
  23. A_kid_named_trav
  24. Islandboiphotography
  25. _heiwatoi
  26. Deun Ivory
  27. _tse
  28. fartatoes
  29. erikalaynephoto
  30. angelzheng
  31. Quazimottoonwx
  32. Yagazieemezi
  33. malachiajose
  34. Maximushka
  35. Edmaximus
  36. Amaalsaid
  37. Stevenchikosi
  38. Lawrence Agyei
  39. Joe Kenneth
  40. Beewalker_
  41. Adrienradford
  42. goldenpolaroid
  43. Kjohn_lasoul
  44. Foxyneela
  45. Bynwabugo
  46. Nadineijewere
  47. Photodre
  48. raisaaziz
  49. Justinamoafo
  50. Ericmichaelw
  51. Hannahfaith_
  52. Seunx
  53. Storyofkai
  54. Sambitionphotos
  55. Sirnoahbility
  56. Lauren_zoe
  57. xxjmitch
  58. eltonpeters
  59. gregnoire
  60. adeledejak
  61. aqut
  62. daviduzochukwu
  63. nixon
  64. desertedinurban
  65. carlnard
  66. dnactherealist
  67. afrikingi
  68. sohrachsoh
  69. najrashad
  70. ronhill
  71. lovejonesphoto_
  72. e_fresh_
  73. oabphotography
  74. lyraoko
  75. jaydabliu
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Poets:

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  1. _akosuawrites : Outburst (Book)
  2. ijeoma umebinyuo: Questions For Ada
  3. Akosua Peprah
  4. Poeticharmonylove
  5. Poppyinthewheat
  6. Preston_n_perry
  7. Poetesscynthia
  8. Poetra_asantewaa
  9. Beingupile
  10. Nlshompole
  11. Q. Gibson:
  12. Dellahickswilson
  13. Poetjasminemans
  14. wordsbyezekiel
  15. Nayyirah waheed
  16. Yrsa Daley Ward
  17. Tapiwa Mugabe
  18. Alex_elle
  19. Ry.spear
  20. Reyna Biddy
  21. najwazebian
  22. Rupikaur_
  23. Elusivemetaphors
  24. isra.althibeh
  25. Karl_lokko
  26. jo. essence
  27. Tryphenayeboah
  28. Uncensoredfeminist
  29. Cyrusspeaks
  30. Tevsmith
  31. Whatisjoedoing
  32. Tribecalledvision
  33. Rudyfrancisco
  34. Keyballah
  35. Maxwelldpoetry
  36. alison.malee
  37. Goldwomyn
  38. Isthispoetry
  39. Writingsofvinati
  40. Nesimaa
  41. Sarah_aluko
  42. Theaureliapearl
  43. Jackiehillperry
  44. Iammyss
  45. F Gabdon
  46. Daeizm
  47. Mazadohta
  48. _dkaur
  49. wu_shire
  50. Lang Leav
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My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. -Maya Angelou 🙂

All pictures on this post aren’t mine. They are all found on google.  All the names above are the artist/photographer’s names. There were so many names but the list would have been too long so I’ll post more when I can. For now, tell your friends and their friends. I know sometimes people don’t like to share but this platform is different. Support creatives. Invest in people. Empower one another. Stay tuned for the next set of creatives I will share. Until next time, shine bright. Hold hands with God. Take care. 🙂

Perspective is Key

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Perspective is Key. Looking back over the years, I can say that I didn’t have this mindset of perspective being key. I’ve grown so much. The trials I faced drew me closer to God. Life isn’t always easy. Some days are tougher than others but I have learned to lean on God. I can definitely say that something that has helped me to reshape my thinking is my relationship with God. I look at situations through a different lens now. There were times when I was going through my own personal situations and when I called my friends, they never got back to me. In those moments are when one begins to question their friendships. It was hard at times and yes there have been many times in my life that I have questioned myself about the people I surround myself with but overtime I learned not to depend solely on people. We are humans and we fail in some way. It breaks my heart to see that there are many people hurting. They have become silent. So what have I learned thus far in this life? I have learned a lot but I’ll list 10 things.

  1. Seek God in all your earthly doing. Study the Bible. Invite the Holy Spirit before you partake in your study.
  2. Perspective is Key. The way you choose to view your circumstances can either shape you or break you.
  3.  Create room in your heart for God in the same way you make room for things.
  4. Be careful of your circle of friends. At the same time, know that there is a Purpose to every encounter. Some people come into our lives for a season or for a lifetime. It’s never a mistake the people we cross paths with in this life.
  5. Prioritize. When something is important to you, you make time for that thing. You don’t make excuses. If you want to have a better relationship with God, you make time to be in his presence. You will make time to read the Bible.
  6. Community of Believers: It’s good to have people in your life that pray for you and want to see you grow in the Lord. If you do not have people in your life but will like to be surrounded with likeminded people, pray about it.
  7. Live: Don’t take life so seriously. There’s a time for everything. Create memories with your family, friends and loved ones.
  8. Spend time with yourself. Get know what you like and don’t like. Go out and explore. Write in your journal. Take pictures. Discover new hobbies.
  9. Prayer is powerful. I’ve heard people say “I don’t know how to pray”. “So and so knows how to pray for long.” Honestly, it’s not about the duration of your prayer but rather your heart and also having the faith that whatever you have prayed for will come to pass. I can say that something that has given me peace is asking God to have his way in everything. If things don’t go as I intended, I’m grateful and I look at it in a different perspective.
  10. Be a blessing unto others: As you forth into the day, there are people that God will allow you to cross paths with. It’s for a Purpose. I don’t believe in coincidences. Take time to compliment someone if you like their hair, clothes and etc. Take time to say hello or good morning when you meet people. Sometimes, we get so caught up in our own situations that we become close minded to what is right in front of us. Take time to pray for someone.

“There are far too many silent sufferers. Not because they don’t yearn to reach out, but because they’ve tried and found no one who cares.” -Richelle E. Goodrich

Until next time, take care of yourself. Stay rooted in the Word. Be Encouraged 🙂