Advice To Your Younger Self #2

At the start of this year, I started a project which entailed of me asking people who are much older than me this question “What advice will you give your younger self?” It’s been quite interesting the responses I have received by far. In the month of March, I documented all the responses I received and shared it with you all.  Today, I will be sharing part two (responses with you all from (April – July).

Daphne: 4/16/2017

  1. Trust God
  2. Your beautiful
  3. Value your friendships, family/relationships

 

Kwame: April 19th, 2017

  1. Stay focused
  2. Have more confidence
  3. Think through before making decisions
  4. Don’t compromise

 

Bichelle: April 21st.2017

  1. Follow your instincts
  2. Stick to what you believe
  3. You are beautiful 

 

 Eileen Halsman: 

  • Be selective of the men you chose. (70+ years old)

 

Adaeze: 5/27//2017

  • Don’t be hard on yourself. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.

 

Lindsey: 5/27/2017

  • Get saved 

 

Bamidele (7/22/2017)

-Your dreams will take a longer time to happen but it will happen eventually so you were worried for nothing.

-Dear younger self, next time pick up that call from Jesus earlier. You kept running from all those ladies he sent you in high school. But i am happy I eventually got your attention said Jesus.

-You worry too much about what people think and missed out on a lot because you were afraid you’d offend someone. Next time, let’s start not worrying about what others would say or do. Just be worry what the Lord God thinks.

 

Delali (7/22/2017)

-Save money

-Be consistent

-Listen to my instinct

-If a man says he doesn’t want you, he really means it. Don’t try to change him.

-Mothers are mostly right.

-Follow your passion not what your parents want you to do for them.

 

Mother: (7/24/2017)

  1. Know the Lord earlier
  2. Patience. If you don’t have patience and if someone wants to get to know you, you’ll miss out. Don’t judge before knowing a person. Deep down the person may be the person for you.
  3. To know myself better
  4. Don’t marry someone who is so much older than you. Find someone you can have fun with. When someone is so much older than you, sometimes, there isn’t any chemistry/no relationship between you and the person.

 

Carrie (Waitress) : 7/28/2017

  1. Don’t give up your virginity before marriage. I wish I could have waited.
  2. Don’t take in what people say. Be wise. Don’t be easily deceived. There’s a lot of darkness out there. The heart is deceitful.
  3. Put God first. The best wisdom is from God. Continue to study his word.

 

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25 Things To Know After High School

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  1. This is just the beginning of start of something new. Greater things lie ahead of you.
  2. You are still growing. You don’t fully know yourself once you leave high school. Learn to spend time with yourself. Write in a journal. Document the things you like/dislike.
  3. The people you used to hang around or called your friends may or will drift apart. You have to understand that sometimes separation is good for your soul. Your friends from high school will attend different universities and they too will make new friends. Sometimes, when people meet new people, they gravitate towards them more. Friendship is a two way street. If you realize that your the one that constantly making effort to maintain the friendship, you have to reevaluate the friends in your life. Understand that certain people are seasonal friends. There were only meant t to be apart of the journey for a while. Either ways, understand that there is a purpose to every encounter. Yes, you may cry or feel upset because of the separation but see it for good. You will meet new people along the journey. Sometimes, because of the pain of past friendships, you will start to guard your heart because you don’t want to get hurt. You must also understand and get to a point in your life knowing that everyone is not out to hurt you. Some people mean well for you. Pray and ask God to direct your pathway; to direct you towards people who want to grow. God has a plan far greater than your understanding. Take things one day at a time, daily seeking HIM. *This is something I struggled to understand even when I was in college. I value friendship so when I realized that it wasn’t being reciprocated it was painful. I had friends from high school who will never reach out to me unless it was convenient for them. 7 months will pass and you won’t hear not even a “Hey. How are you?”. If it wasn’t me reaching out to them, then forget it. If your friends don’t prioritize you, don’t prioritize them either. Make time to make time for those who make time for you.
  4. Not everyone will attend college. I’m sure you have heard people say “College is not for me”. Some people will start a family right after high school. Others will go into the military, cosmetology school, get a job and etc.
  5. Your perspective on life may change. You will go through certain experiences that will make you stronger. Life isn’t easy but you will learn and grow through the trials of life. Your trials will turn into testimonies.
  6. Learn to save. At a young age, you think the money your making is nothing so you spend it recklessly on things you don’t need. I can’t say this was a struggle for me because I’m very frugal. Honey, I’m not cheap but I think before I spend. Money doesn’t come easy. It doesn’t fall off a tree.
  7. Learn to clean/cook. At least learn to boil eggs and make rice. Learning how to make the basics can help you along the journey. “You are beautiful; but learn to work, for you cannot eat your beauty.” -Congolese Proverb
  8. Procrastination will not get you anywhere. It will only set you back. Learn to create deadlines for yourself. If you want to start a Youtube channel or even write a book, set a date for yourself when you want to finish your manuscript/release your first video.
  9. Make yourself a priority. Respect + Take care of yourself. Demand nothing less than respect for yourself. Be comfortable with spending time with yourself. It’s not everyday spending time with people.
  10. Learn to love yourself, flaws and all. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
  11. Attitude is everything. Check yourself. Having a bad attitude will not get you far. It seems cute in high school but it will not take you anywhere.
  12. Keep A To Do List & Stick With It. It’s one thing to write a list and it’s another thing to accomplish it.
  13. Try To Read A Book Every Month.
  14. Spend Less Time On Social Media. Stop focusing on what you see on people’s timeline. Stop comparing yourself. It’s not everything you see, is true. Embrace your journey. Where you are, is for a purpose.
  15. Set Goals For Yourself.
  16. Get to know people who are older than you. They have lived life and there’s always something to learn from them.
  17. Travel. Discover new hobbies. Expand your horizon. Try new foods.
  18. Enjoy your sleep while you can.
  19. Live for today. Time is all we have. If you want to do something, go for it.
  20. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes but learn from them.
  21. Your in charge of your time. No more mama waking you up to get ready for school or get your act together. You need to get it together.
  22. Meet new people. Learn about different cultures. You don’t have to be around the same circle of friends. Don’t put a limit to the people your going to meet.
  23. Not everyone you meet is your friend. Get to know people for yourself. Your friend’s (friend) isn’t necessary your friend.
  24. Be fearless. Take risk. Don’t let fear paralyze you. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Progress cannot be made in a comfort zone (sister).
  25. Live stress free. Laugh often. Love always.

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